Before I begin, I need to place this excellent quote on here in honor of a great person. "You guys can work 18 hours plowing and farming in the field and we will wash the dishes and do the laundry." It is
arguably the best quote that I have ever heard in a class.
In a way, my reaction to this quote is very much related to certain things that I have been thinking about as of late. Mostly, I started thinking about them after taking a walk and sharing a drink at Starbucks with a good friend. Not only did the talk help me but it made me feel really good about where I am going.
Lately, I've been having trouble with dealing with the prospects of getting older. Mostly, it has been having to hear what others think about the subject.
One of my favorites is, "We are getting so old." Myself, I don't feel any older. To me, this statement carries the belief that once you reach a specific age you aren't supposed to be a fun-loving human being anymore. It gives me a negative feeling that all at once we must look, talk, and act in a different way than what we have the past few years of our lives.
That is not even the worst of it. I feel as if I am constantly being reminded to act my age. Kinda like, "You are showing emotion and laughing! How dare you! You must act old! You must act dead inside! You must have no soul!"
Of course, I could just be delaying growing up. I am certain that many of my friends could provide plenty of evidence to support that claim. The very fact that I laughed hysterically at my friend's quote or bought the Special Collector's Edition DVD of Peter Pan on Sunday evening is a good start (the movie still rocks).
But in a way, I am glad because for me, growing older has such a negative
connotation to it. Especially when I think about what I have heard from others.
I'm sure that there are those out there who will say, "Why don't you want to grow up? It isn't that bad. You should embrace it!" Usually these are the same kind of people who can't figure out why you don't want to be in an exclusive relationship after having just listened to them complain for an hour about how annoying or boring their significant other or relationship is.
If I am supposed to grow up, act my age, and not be afraid of these things then why does it make me sick to my stomach when I am confronted with people who constantly complain about the very thing that they want me to become?
We don't wake up one day and become "old." Just as we don't wake up one day staring at a job, a mortgage, and a family. Things happen to us. Events in our lives move us from one point to another until we finally reach our present state. But many times, I don't think some of us take the time to think about it in those terms.
I know that one day I will become "older." There is no denying it even though many people my age are hellbent on delaying that (can we say plastic surgery). But for me, I don't think that growing older can and is a sudden thing that changes you overnight. I think that we just forget to enjoy or even realize that life is a ride.
I believe that the ride makes us who we are and that so many people are so worried about getting to their destination that they forget to take the time to enjoy the ride. And when they finally reach that destination, the only thing that they can do is complain about how they didn't enjoy it.
It is true that I haven't exactly completed my course as planned and it is true that I still have not received a piece of paper that is becoming way too important to some people. But, the course I have taken has made me the person that I am today. These past five years, I believe that I have grown as a person so much more than most people do in a lifetime.
There is not one thing that I would change about the past five years. If I did, then you probably would not be reading about it.
Labels: Growing Old, Growing Up, Life